Monday, June 17, 2013

Being a mom

Every Monday Im going to try and post my thoughts on being a mom. So here goes

I found this little gem a while ago on pinterest and I have been dying to post about it. It was one of the wonderful moments that expressed exactly what I have wanted to say to all those people that tell me oh she is growing up so fast. She is getting so big. Which is all true yes but seeing as tomorrow she will be 3 months I don't feel as if these 3 months have gone by fast or gone by to slow. Evangeline is exactly where I want her to be. She is my buddy all day and everyday. Being a single mom has given me the opportunity to embrace everyday and enjoy every single moment with her. Now i'm no super mom by any means there are times when I look at my phone for way to long, stay on the computer for way to long or just plug the pacifer in her moth in hopes that she will fall asleep and the moments when I look at my sweet baby and think man if you would just be happy for two seconds and stop crying and needing me to hold you (which she really is a happy baby) but in that moment I remind myself that before I know it this moment will be gone and I will be wishing that she was crying so that I could hold her and make her world right.

It breaks my heart to see children whose parents don't have the time for them. I want to jump right in and show them that I care about the awesome lego ship they made or the fact that they did their own hair.  I love the moments of greatness a child has. They may seem small to most adults but to a child they are the world. 
 She has my heart and she always will. For she is the only one who knows what my heartbeat sounds like from the inside. So thank you to Tonya Ferguson at 4 Little Fergusons for this wonderful letter.

Mom on the Iphone

Dear Mom On the iPhone,

I see you over there on the bench, messing on your iPhone. It feels good to relax a little while your kids have fun in the sunshine, doesn’t it? You are doing a great job with your kids, you work hard, you teach them manners, have them do their chores

.But Momma, let me tell you what you don’t see right now…..

Your little girl is spinning round and round, making her dress twirl. She is such a little beauty queen already, the sun shining behind her long hair. She keeps glancing your way to see if you are watching her.

You aren’t.

Your little boy keeps shouting, “Mom, MOM watch this!” I see you acknowledge him, barely glancing his way.He sees that too. His shoulders slump, but only for a moment, as he finds the next cool thing to do.

Now you are pushing your baby in the swing. She loves it! Cooing and smiling with every push. You don’t see her though, do you? Your head is bent, your eyes on your phone as you absently push her swing.
Talk to her. Tell her about the clouds, Mommy. The Creator who made them. Tickle her tummy when she comes near you and enjoy that baby belly laugh that leaves far too quickly.

Put your eyes back on your prize…Your kids.

Show them that they are the priority. Wherever you are, be ALL there. I am not saying it’s not ok to check in on your phone, but it’s a time-sucker: User Beware! Play time at the park will be over before you know it.
The childhood of your children will be gone before you know it. They won’t always want to come to the park with you, Mommy. They won’t always spin and twirl to make their new dress swish, they won’t always call out, “WATCH ME!” There will come a point when they stop trying, stop calling your name, stop bothering to interrupt your phone time.

Because they know…

You’ve shown them, all these moments, that the phone is more important than they are. They see you looking at it at while waiting to pick up brother from school, during playtime, at the dinner table, at bedtime…..

I know that’s not true, Mommy.

I know your heart says differently.

But your kids can’t hear your words, Mommy. Your actions are screaming way too loudly.

May our eyes rest upon those we love, first and foremost, and may everything else fall away in the wonderful, noisy, sticky-fingered glory of it all.

Also check out this video. Every time I see it I cant help but think... even though she made a huge mess that child is happy. 

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